One of the exercises I frequently have clients complete is the WWISD otherwise known as
We often get stuck numb in figuring out if what we are doing is truly serving who we are as we go about the day to day hum of life…until we realize that we are deeply unhappy or deeply dissatisfied.
Sometimes we need to figure out what we need to stop in order to figure out what we need to do.
The ugly pillow|the overflowing email box|clothes that don’t fit|the chipped nail polish|being last on your list|not having enough money|a draining relationship|not being organized|being unhappy|uncomfortable shoes|pants that don’t fit|the messy car|others’ expectations
The things we tolerate can be small or they can be huge, but regardless it’s hard to create the life you crave when you are tolerating a lot of crap. Some can be simple to handle…others not so much.
Write them down and make small inroads in tackling them. It will add up.
Stop worrying about perfection
There is a huge difference between pursuing excellence and obsessing over perfection. ..and the line for many of us is never clear.
As a recovering perfectionist I know of what I speak. Perfectionism keeps you stuck and impossible standards simply become excuses to not step out of your comfort zone.
Stop striving for balance
Balance sits astride a unicorn and carries a pot o’ gold…it’s that rare. We’re constantly chasing it, striving for it, and trying to achieve it.
Give up the balancing act and instead notice equilibrium and ebbs and flows in your life. My life proportion is not the same as yours or hers, or hers and so on…do what works for you.
Stop trying to change others
This.strategy.never.works…ever. The only thing you can control is you and when you try to control and change other people all you end up with is an unhappy you and an unhappy them.
This is what I call an energy drain activity. It’s exhausting trying to make someone else change when we have more than enough trying to keep track of ourselves. True change is always an inside job.
Stop neglecting your best Ass.et
Ok, so I’m having a little fun with this one.
YOU, sweet thang, are your best asset, you know. Not eating right, not sleeping enough, not exercising, not practicing self care, not honoring your most precious commodity…you.
C’mon gorgeous, it’s time to stop making yourself an option and not a priority.
Sooo…what are you going to stop doing? Something on the list or something else entirely? Leave me some brilliance 🙂
I will confess that the last one is the one on the page here is the one I am guilty of neglecting most often. I’ve been working on not doing that, getting there slowly but surely one day at a time.
I think for most women that the last one IS the hardest one Loretta. We continually put ourselves last on the list and I’m determined to help women change that! I love, love that you said you are getting there slowly but surely…that is awesome!
The small, consistent actions are what will continue to make the difference 🙂
I’m cheering you on~