So let me ask you a question. Who is the most important person in the world to you? Now I’m sure you need some time to think about your answer, because, as for most of us; we have several very important people in our lives. I’m not asking you to place your firstborn over your middle child 🙂 but I will say that the answer is probably not the first thing that pops into your mind.
It tends to be a difficult question to answer because the correct answer sounds so…selfish. Can you guess what the answer is…it’s YOU!
Picture yourself as a pitcher filled with liquid and everyone that you care about as glasses. Now when you keep pouring yourself into other people, how do you get filled up again? What happens when you run out?
There is great truth to the saying “You can’t give what you don’t have”.
Being “self-centered” isn’t at all about being selfish or thinking about you in an arrogant or exclusive way. It’s about centering yourself. It’s about creating a space for you to be you, to have a chance to breathe, to practice proactively thinking rather than reactively thinking.
Being self-centered means you refill the pitcher, you give yourself space to practice self-care. Being self-centered means that you give yourself permission to do something that gives you joy.
There are 3 areas that encompass self-care: bodily, mentally, and spiritually. Sometimes you need one more than the other, sometimes you can do doing something that feeds all 3 areas; it’s up to you to be in tune with what feeds your soul at any given time and figure what needs to be filled up again.
For me…it’s doing some form of exercise. At different times, I need different things. Sometimes, I need a hard cardio workout (I used to think that was all I needed). But changes have taken place and now I also incorporate yoga, lifting, and other activities I find enjoyable.
How do you feel about this whole concept of being self-centered? What are your self-care routines? Love to hear your thoughts!