I often talk about how I don’t believe in the whole balance myth. I’ve been rethinking that concept lately (or at least as how we normally think of balance).
See, I think of trying to be balanced as a juggling act using pissed off cats (and personally I juggle about as well as I do calculus…yikes, ‘nuff said).
The myth of balance as having enough time, effort, and energy to be able to spend equal amounts of time on everything that is important to you is ridiculous. Quite frankly, those life wheels that are used in the personal development industry drive me crazy. That model just does not fit the demands on women in today’s society. There is always going to be an imbalance on your life. Your life pie is not going to cut into neat little equal slices and guess what…that’s OK!
To me, all I ever feel when I do one of those is how inadequate I am and how I’m not measuring up (yet again!) to what society says I should be doing.
So know that I’ve clarified again how much I dislike the idea of balance, you may be asking yourself what exactly have I been rethinking…and here it is:
The idea of balance can really be boiled down to 2 things:
Essentially that is what life balance is. All the other ‘stuff’ on the wheel is important, but when you can find your balance (again giant emphasis on the YOUR part) on the being and doing part of it, you are much more able to blend all of those other pieces.
The phrase BE, DO, HAVE is a popular concept in self growth and it’s no surprise that the BE and DO are the first ones in the lineup.
Perhaps this concept creates a shift for you too! Want to learn more?