You’ve heard of the phrase “where there’s a will there’s a way” right? Someone I was talking with the other day used this phrase (in relationship to a New Year’s resolution) and it struck me that it isn’t about the will, it’s about the why.
Willpower is defined as: energetic determination hmmm…quite frankly, I don’t feel so energetic when I exercise my willpower. I usually feel somewhat anxious and there seems to be a feeling of sacrifice or lack involved. It feels…painful.
My energy comes when I know my WHY
Have you ever had someone say to you, “I wish I had your willpower!” Here’s a secret…no they don’t; not really. While they may admire you (and you may certainly enjoy your feelings of superiority at this point;-)), they simply haven’t yet identified their why yet.
Your will comes from knowing with absolute crystal clear clarity what your why is. Your why is the fuel that powers the will.
Goals and resolutions need to be important to you. Too many times women pick goals that they feel they should do, rather than a deep desire internally to do. Should immediately implies that it prolly ain’t gonna happen (how’s that for some impressive grammar;-) ).
Put more bluntly, if you are making goals to impress others, even if you make the goal, the victory will feel hollow because you’ve allowed other people to define your why…sucky for sure.
Now, that being said, sometimes someone may articulate a goal/resolution that resonates with you or gives you inspiration. That’s totally cool; just make sure the feelings behind it are yours.
So your why has to be something you feel down to your bones…because no doubt about it, there will be times when you will need to work your ass off to keep that why firmly in front of you. Not discouraged yet; awesome! You are well on your way 😉
Do you have any goals/resolutions that you’d like to share? Lay ‘em on me!