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The Paradox of Self Development and Growth

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Live in the Present-BUT Prepare for the Future

Have Goals- BUT Don’t be Attached to Them

You’re Wonderful Just as You Are- BUT Seek to Live Your Best Life

Be Authentic-BUT Manage Your Emotions

You Get to Choose-BUT Accept Your Circumstances

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone-BUT Play to Your Strengths

Be Persistent- BUT Learn to Let Go

Plan Your Day- BUT Be Spontaneous

Have A Plan- BUT Be Flexible

AACCCKKKKK!!!!  What I’ve listed above are just a smidge of what I consider the paradoxes are in self-development and personal growth today.  Just this morning, I received no less than 6 emails all advising me of doing the opposite of what the other one was telling me to do!

Now here’s the kicker:  These are all true!  Let’s look at what a paradox is: A paradox is a statement or concept that presents conflicting ideas or contradicts itself.  So who or what do you believe?

How often in a day do we find ourselves confronted with our own thoughts as a paradox?  This is particularly true for those of us who see all the “shades of gray” (that is another post in itself!) in a given circumstance or situation.  Or perhaps we read or hear a thought leader telling us one thing and another one telling us something else?

I know for me it sometimes seems like I’m talking out of both sides of my mouth!

I want you to step out of your comfort zone, but I also want you to revel in the things you’re good at and embrace and nourish your strengths!

I want you to have a plan, but I also want you to be flexible

I want you to know that you are wonderful as you are, but that I want you to be the best you that you can be.

The key here is an awareness of you!  It’s about becoming more aware of the choices we make every second; without realizing that they are serving us for the better or draining us of precious energy.

It comes down to trusting that inner voice and remaining true to what you value the most.

I get to decide how much I want to persist in an activity…or let it go to pursue something else.

I get to choose how much I want to step out of my comfort zone, while using my strengths to their fullest potential (ie: not liking being particularly detail oriented, but understanding that it is necessary to achieve certain goals I have).

Preferring to be flexible and not constrained by a schedule, but knowing that planning my time allows me to exercise my creativity that much more.

It’s about finding the recipe that works for you.

It’s about blending and nourishing all the different parts of you when it feels right for you.  Creating the Life that YOU Crave!

If you’re wondering how all these pieces fit for you and are looking for some clarity, then a Sweet Success Strategy Session might be just what you’re hungering for.

These power packed sessions are designed in bite sized chunks to satisfy your craving for the Sweet Life!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you blend all of the pieces of your personal growth together; please share!

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  1. John Lusher says

    August 14, 2010 at 1:21 pm

    Danielle, you have hit the nail on the head! Some days I feel bombarded by the same types of emails; one telling me to do one thing, and the next one telling me the exact opposite!

    So cutting through the clutter to learn the best method for self development is a challenge; to say the least!!

    Great post, very though provoking! I look forward to learning more from you!

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    • Danielle says

      August 16, 2010 at 10:16 am

      Thanks John:

      I think we often forget that we are all of these things as we navigate through life. We truly are perfect, but gloriously imperfect too!

      Have a terrific week!

      Warmly,
      Danielle

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  2. Marcia Francois says

    August 16, 2010 at 6:31 am

    Hi Danielle

    Please just check from your side – I’ve signed up for a session and got the mail to “click the link” – have clicked but I didn’t get anything else (not sure if the questionnaire is coming from aweber).

    Anyway, will chat soon.

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      August 16, 2010 at 10:13 am

      Hi Marcia:

      First, let me thank you for scheduling a session…I can’t wait to talk with you! Secondly, we’ll get to work on this right away, please let me know if you do not receive anything today. Please contact me danielle@myrecipeforlife.com and either myself or my assistant Amy, will get you straightened out pronto!

      Warmly,
      Danielle

      Reply
  3. Alexander says

    August 19, 2010 at 2:23 pm

    Hi Danielle.
    It seams to me that I’m not a Night Owl.

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    • Danielle says

      August 19, 2010 at 8:57 pm

      Hey Alexander:

      That’s ok…the point is that we all have different times when we are the most productive…mornings just don’t happen to be my “best” time:-)

      Warmly,
      Danielle

      Reply

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