Have you heard some of these expressions: “You’ll never know unless you ask”, “There’s nothing wrong with asking”, “Even if the answer’s no, you’re no worse off than you were before”, “What’s the harm in asking?”
As someone who teaches people to ask for what they want…because after all, “You’ll never know unless you ask!” I often find that most people are not afraid to ask for what they want, that’s not the real issue. The real issue comes when we don’t get what we want!
So how do we overcome that? The key is in not getting attached to the outcome. So, in other words, it’s fabulous, amazing, great when you get what you want, but you’re ok with the situation if you don’t. Don’t get me wrong, that’s not to say that you can’t feel disappointment or frustration initially, but when you depersonalize the outcome…it becomes much more tolerable.
I know…it sounds weird and crazy, but let me explain. All of your success is based on scientific principles (it is whether you think so or not!) One of the principles is based on the Law of Detachment. Now this does NOT mean that you give up the desire, the intent, the manifestation of what you want.
BUT what happens is that you start to become anxious, fearful or insecure when your desires don’t manifest immediately or when you think they should. You begin to become anxious and attached to the outcome, you then start to send out those negative vibrations attached to that outcome. This is what the Universe and energy pick up and what is reflected back to you.
You start to focus on the lack rather than the abundance of what you already have. You must immediately stop that thought process and get back on track to abundance, not scarcity. Remember that the outcome may have a different path to get there then what you initially thought.
The final piece of the puzzle is to step back and look at what you’re asking for. Is it truly in alignment with your core values and your authentic self?
The Universe is listening…make sure that you are clear on what you’re asking for…
What do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts and comments!
Miechelle/The Transitionist says
I like to think of this in terms of separating soul from ego in that human ego does not always want what soul needs and that soul actually has the blueprint to our lives and what we need to do to learn our lessons etc etc. I have found that most of my “needs” are really ego based wants and that if I can distantiate myself from ego I can also detach from outcome based expectation. When I am disappointed, I tend to ask what the lesson is in that disappointment and I have found that it is usually a signpost showing me that I was going in the wrong direction in the first place.