I strongly dislike the phrase “self-improvement”. When you start going about the business of improving yourself, you’re somewhere along the line inherently thinking that:
- there is something wrong with you
- something about you needs ‘fixed’
- you have to change something about yourself because someone else may not like it
- your weaknesses need to be ‘strengthened’
Guess what gorgeous? There is nothing wrong with you. Let me repeat that:
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU
Indeed if you think about how all the particular cells and molecules needed to come together and stirred up to make glorious you…why you’d be hard pressed not to stop staring at’cho loveliness 24/7.
And let’s face it…feeling like you need to improve is exhausting, isn’t it? Oh, there is no rest for those on the improvement treadmill…evah.
Those little voices that say “oooh, you need to fix that”, “you can’t ever do that right”, “why do you always mess that up”…oh my, they are sooooo tiring.
A simple shift in perspective can dramatically change how you view becoming more “you”. Doesn’t develop or grow sound so much more affirming than improve?
“I’d like to develop my organizational skills”, or “I feel like I am growing into becoming a better listener”. mmmmm…doesn’t that sound so much yummier?
To me self actualization is much like a picture that develops or a tree that grows (get where I’m going with this?). Remember the polaroids (hey they’re coming back!!) and you got to watch the picture develop? The picture was fuzzy and then it became clearer, sharper and more in focus as you watched it.
We are like those pictures. We start out fuzzy and some of develop faster than others ;), but the point is that we all develop into ‘more’ of who we really are.
So the next time that you feel a need to “improve” on who you are, think about instead developing into who you are truly meant to be 🙂
How’s your life polaroid turning out?