*This was a post that I originally wrote back in December of 2008… holy moly it’s hard to believe it’s been 2 years! It’s one of my favorites (although I could pick apart the writing, I decided to leave it as is), and is particularly important this time of year. Enjoy and let me know your thoughts 🙂
I was out and about today doing some Christmas shopping, running errands and trying to stay on top of my action list. One of my stops today was at Barnes and Noble (had a gift card just burning a hole in my purse). I love browsing book stores, I literally could spend the WHOLE day in there…coffee and books-heaven!
Anyway, I finally settled on 2 self-development books and a magazine and went to pay for my purchases. The woman behind the cash register was looking at what I was buying and expressed interest in one of the books. “Are there more of these back there?” she asked me. I replied yes and that I was looking forward to reading it as the author had recently been on a talk show. She proceeded to tell me that she loved reading self-development books and that she was going to buy it AND then she said…”BUT, IT PROBABLY WON’T WORK ANYWAY.”
This woman, whom I will probably never see again, received an impromptu lesson from me that I normally charge a fee for (although she got the condensed version!).
I looked at her askance and said, “Did you just hear what you said?”
She looked me at me like I had just grown another head and said “What?” I asked her why she was even bothering to buy the book.
She looked at me very puzzled and I said, “Are you buying the book for entertainment or are you buying it to improve your life in some way?”
She kind of laughed and replied that she hadn’t really thought about it.
So I explained to her that she was already discounting the material with the mindset that it “wouldn’t work.” We talked for a little more (while people behind me were still waiting in line) and I stressed to her that unless she BELIEVED in what she was reading and went in with a positive mindset she wouldn’t get anything out of the book anyway.
“Wow” she said laughing, “You’re good.” I laughed with her and said “It’s what I do.”
How many times do you go into something with that defeatist mindset already hovering in your mind?
You may not even be aware you’re doing it!! Be conscious of your mindset! Remember your thoughts are things that will help or hinder you.
Have a time that this has happened to you? Please share 🙂