I’ve been re-reading a book I got about 8 months or so ago, one you may have heard of called The Happiness Project. It’s a book written by Gretchen Rubin recounting her experiences of being…well, happier. She takes you through a year in her life as she puts different happiness theories to the test and her results.
The book appeals to me in so many ways. It’s humorous (very important to me), practical, and real. I started following Gretchen’s blog and her website The Happiness Project Toolbox Site and one of my favorite things that she has is The Twelve Personal Commandments.
The Twelve Commandments are just that…the values and principles that you want to guide your thoughts and actions. I did a post about 2 years ago about the Essential Ingredients in your Life Recipe (which is same concept as The Twelve Commandments) and thought it would be fun to list mine and give you tips for coming up with yours…(whether you call them Ingredients, Commandments, Credos, Tools), whatever.
The list is really made up of your values and the ideas that are most important to you. It’s a Recipe for how you want to live your life on a daily basis.
So here are some ideas for coming up with yours:
- Think about what you value most. These are things like: love, freedom, autonomy, integrity, honesty…you get the idea.
- One of Gretchen’s tips (and one of my favs) is to pay attention to quotes, what other people say, and phrases that really resonate with you (you’ll notice a few of those in mine).
- There is no set number of Ingredients or Commandments. When I was teaching middle schoolers and gave an assignment I was also asked “How long does it have to be?” My reply was always “Til you’ve said everything you wanted to say.” And then I proceeded to give guidelines because we like that. We want parameters and guidelines. So, however many Ingredients do the job, then that’s how many you write down.
- Make sure your list reflects YOU!
- Your list will change and that’s OK!
- WRITE IT DOWN!
Danielle’s Essential Ingredients (my Recipe for Life)
- Treat others as I want to be treated
- Be kind
- Be truthful without being hurtful
- Just Do It
- Laugh Every Day
- Be grateful
- Be part of the solution
- I accept responsibility for all of my choices
I would love for you to post your Ingredients or Commandments! If you find this activity really difficult, I cover this exercise in depth in Cravin’IT, my program designed to help you define your mindset, mission, and message