I’ve had lots of interesting conversations this week with girlfriends and clients about some really deep stuff.
Here is just a sample of the questions that were put on the table:
- What if I don’t know who I’m supposed to be?
- How do I break free of other people’s expectations?
- Why can’t I seem to get past my story?
- Why do the people around me have trouble excepting that I am changing?
Each question could be a series of blog posts on it’s own (and might be at some point), but here is the question/theme that seemed to come up over and over this week:
Why Can’t I Reach My Goals?
It’s a common frustration for many people and one I often find myself coaching clients on.
Here are the juicy goods:
The process of a setting a GOAL is not really understood
The process of getting a GOAL is not really understood
The GOAL is not really your goal
The GOAL doesn’t match your values
The mindset around a GOAL may be one of deprivation rather than abundance
The GOAL isn’t really something you care about achieving
What’s a not-too-big not-too-small GOAL…in other words a GOAL that is jussst right
We’re afraid to fail
We’re afraid to succeed
Listen up gorgeous…goals are NOT bad things
They are not restrictive, rigid, or designed to deprive
Goals, in their true sense are supposed to be expansive,
To fill you with a sense of purpose, possibility, and fulfillment
To have you FEEL the way you want to feel…that’s the power and beauty of goals
And doesn’t that sound so much more fun?
Need some assistance in creating goals that fulfill you? I have a few coaching spots available. Contact me at danielle[at]daniellemmiller.com and let’s talk about your goals
j steele says
GOAL, PLAN, WORK, HARD, EARN – come on D, they’re all 4 letter words!
On a serious note: it is tricky business to seperate what is MY Goal from all the expectations of others, especially those that are closest to me.
keep up the good work!
LOL..you are so right J! Four letter words to be embraced because they will take you where you want to go in life 🙂 And you have said it exactly…it IS difficult to separate YOUR goals from others’ expectations…but it is also vital so that you feel fulfilled, motivated, and inspired to do your Great Work
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